Thoughts about Denmark

These are Bianka's thoughts about Denmark and danish people, many foreigners agree with. Very interesting to read the comments, also.

[...] I found a country full of people who not only accept difference, they tolerate it. A country of high culture and education, polite people everywhere and a working social system. Yes - I found all the things I was lacking in my home country. But I also found something else. The first few months I was seeing only the positive things about this country - I was so impressed by it, that ever time when I saw something wrong or I just heard about it, I was the first one to stand up defending Denmark. But after those months passed and I peeled the surface of this place I found somethings else - something I didn’t like.
[...] It doesn’t matter how much taxes you pay or how hard you try to impress the Danish society - here it’s all about social status. If you are not Danish, don’t try seeking your ideal career within those lands. One of the other reasons that I came to this country is because of the myths of all that tolerance towards foreigners. And yes - it is a myth. [...]
There are lot’s of positive things that I could say about Denmark, [...]. But it is only for the Danish society - and of course they have their right to be snobbish and cold towards the foreigners. I am protesting against the PR’s who are advertising this country as the living paradise, where color of skin, nationality etc. are not social hold backs, but in the real Denmark, the one that I live in, they are. Sometimes it’s sad that your nationality will always be an obstacle if you try looking for happiness and development in another country - especially a one with high level of nationalistic pride.
[...] And I put my trust, my friendship into a Danish hands and I got dissapointed. [...] I ended up having no Danish friends, despite the fact that I live in Denmark, but a bunch of Spanish, Italian, Lithuanian, Romanian and Polish friends. And it’s not because I didn’t try - it’s because my nationality will always be a barrier for the Danes - they will never let you get close enough to them. They might be polite, smiling, inviting you to some parties, but the one thing that I learned since I am here is that they cannot be your friends, simply because they are not willing to trust you.

Death of the traditional family

Women are more likely to give birth before they turn 25 than get married, according to official statistics that illustrate how British family life has been transformed in a generation.
More people are living alone, more children are being raised by single parents and more grown-up children are living with their parents than ever before, according to the Office for National Statistics.

One expert said that the in-depth annual study was final confirmation that the nuclear family had become “a museum piece”.

The wide-ranging report also showed that Britain had become a nation of people who travel longer distances to work, take more foreign holidays and fill their homes with electrical gadgets.

The Social Trends report made clear, however, that the most radical changes had been to child-rearing and marriage.

Its figures showed that 30 per cent of women under 30 had given birth by the age of 25, while 24 per cent had married: the first time that having children had become the first major milestone of adult life, ahead of marriage. This was in sharp contrast to their parents’ generation. In 1971 three-quarters of women were married by 25, and half had given birth. [...]

“The single-parent family carried all sorts of social and moral judgments back then [in 1971]. That is just not the case any more.

“The couple who do not get married is now socially acceptable in a way that it never was before.” [...]

“We now know that children suffer hugely if they don’t get the balance of two parents in their upbringing. Those with two parents are less likely to take drugs, more likely to do well at school, more likely to get jobs.”

The ONS figures also showed that a rise in the number of people going to university and a decade-long house price bubble had meant that 300,000 more people under the age of 34 lived at home than in 2001. In 2008, 29 per cent of men under the age of 34 lived at home with their parents, up from 27 per cent seven years earlier.

The ONS said the Divorce Reform Act of 1969, which made it easier to dissolve a marriage, was one of the main causes for the radical change in families.

Critics of the Government point out that the tax system has also been altered to the advantage of unmarried couples.

The last tax break for married couples, the married couples’ allowance, was abolished in 2000. State benefits, and especially Gordon Brown’s flagship tax credit system, pay more to single mothers than to two-parent families.

Patricia Morgan, the author of The War between the State and the Family, said: “There is discrimination on the one hand, but on the other there are major benefit incentives for a single woman to have children. It’s a mug’s game, getting married.” [...]

Read the full article at The Telegraph